Whether you are recovering from heartbreak
or coming to terms with a recent disappointment, resolve to maintain
your joy in spite of it all. Don't succumb to the innate urge to fold
up into a ball and withdraw from your world. This is not an option for
the single mother. Our children need us too much. Instead, embrace your
faith and rely on God to comfort you and bring peace while He restores
your emotional equilibrium. Discover fresh interests by trying new things,
meeting new people, reading some new books or embarking on a new hobby.
Choose to be happy, joyful and content at
this very moment in your life. Take solace in knowing that your current
position doesn’t predict your potential. You’re on your way some place
wonderful! Make your plans, map your goals and continue on your happy,
fun- filled course! Choose to be happy, today.
About The Author
Teri Worten is webmaster of two popular websites designed
to inspire, uplift and encourage any woman who chooses to overcome life's
barriers to success and happiness.
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Just Do It!
by: Yolanda Shoshana.
our society people can name a hundred reasons or shall I say "excuses"
why they should not do something that they dream of doing, while finding
one good reason is hard to find. We have become a culture full of dreamers,
"one day I am going to..." We have become scared of taking
a risk for fear of failure and continue to wait for the right time to
pursue our goals.
are you waiting for? There will never be anyone who gives you permission
to go for what you want. It is up to you to begin to seize the day.
The right time is NOW. Get rid of the "should haves" and "could
haves" There is no reason why someone else is living out your dream
except for the fact that they decided to take action. Just Do It!
To day I will take steps to "doing" actions that lead me closer
to my dreams becoming my reality.
About The Author
"The Woman Booster", is a life strategist for women and artist.
She founded Shekhinah Arts a life strategist coaching company to advocate,
educate, inspire, and motivate women. To get on the Shekhinah Arts ezine
list for, Quick Bites: Inspiration and Motivation for a Woman on the
Go and Femme Fatale, email her at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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CAREER IS IN THE DOLDRUMS…Do I need a Coach or a Therapist?
by: Nina Ham
Monday the worst day of your week? Can you hardly remember when you
enjoyed going to work? Do friends ask why you seem so down? Maybe this
has been going on awhile, and you’re realizing it’s time to do something.
But where do you turn? At one moment you tell yourself “It’s just my
career…Change that, and everything will be OK”. Another moment, you
acknowledge you’re living under a cloud and a lot of old emotional ghosts
are returning. Your friend who’s recommending you consult her therapist
may be right.
uncertainty is understandable. Work itself is never “just work” but
can reach deep into our attitudes toward ourselves and into our sense
of belonging in the world. Furthermore, therapy and coaching have much
in common and differ primarily in the emphasis each places on action
and understanding. Whether you decide to deal with your work issues
through a practical approach or a psychological approach is a matter
of choice. The questions posed below should help you make that choice.
• Are you an action person or an insight person?
Most people are both, in some mix, but they instinctively
approach change either by setting it in motion with action or by first
assessing and preparing for its emotional impact. A shy mid-level manager,
for example, who has taken on new responsibilities that involve public
speaking, may gravitate toward a Toastmasters group for help. She would
be a candidate for coaching if she wanted to develop her mastery further.
Or she might prefer to look toward therapy as a setting in which she
could explore her anxieties about being in the spotlight.
• What’s your track record for converting personal
desires and dreams into real-time?
Although all of us may have periods of doubting
whether we deserve work we love and are good at, being able to sustain
a commitment to having what you want is essential for coaching. If you
find yourself stuck in daydreaming about the ideal career, or perhaps
avoiding or sabotaging efforts to create it for yourself, it may be
that you’re blocked by low self-esteem and/or depression. In this case,
therapy might be the better choice, to help you build a positive investment
• Holding your feet to the fire…too hot?
In the process of revitalizing your career, there’s
plenty of research to be done: research into yourself – who you are
now and what you want – and research into the marketplace. A therapist
would accompany you in researching yourself but would only indirectly
participate in your market research. Homework and accountability are
generally built into coaching, designed by you and your coach. Whether
you find accountability motivating and focusing, or unwelcome pressure,
should help inform your decision.
• Do you want an expert or a companion?
A therapist will invite you to go deeply into
issues that may be blocking or confusing you, and may draw on his or
her expertise to challenge your definition of the problem. A coach will
invite you to co-create the goals and design of the coaching, and your
stated agenda will be the focus unless you decide to change it. Both
therapist and coach will help you see what you can’t see, but you remain
more explicitly in charge of coaching than you would of therapy.
If you come to the conclusion that
you want to look into psychotherapy, it’s advisable to look for word-of-mouth
recommendations whenever possible. Another possibility is to consult
your local Mental Health Association. Many people find it empowering
to ask for sample visits with at least two therapists before making
their decision. If you decide on coaching, be sure to inquire about
training, in addition to experience, as you’re looking for a coach.
The International Coaching Federation maintains a credential that assures
the client of a high level of both training and experience. And remember,
nothing precludes doing therapy and coaching simultaneously. Some people
find it a powerful duo. Good luck on your quest!
About The Author
Ham, certified coach and licensed psychotherapist, is principal of Success
from the Inside Out, providing individual coaching and teleseminars
to build the skills, attitudes and habits for sustainable success in
your career or business. Mail to: Nina@womenssuccesscoach.com, subscribe
in subject line, for free monthly e-zine, or visit http://www.SuccessfromtheInsideOut.com.
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