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Prioritize Your Goals and Achieve Success

Priorities are the hardest things for all to do.  But, what I’ve noticed with my experience with women priorities are very challenging.  That is because most women that I work with appropriate other people’s agendas.  Their jobs, their partner’s, their families, children, etc., and this allows them to decide what’s important to them.  But, is it?  No. 

The other thing I’ve notices is woman ignore their own priorities.  It’s easier to make excuses than to fail at trying to achieve your goals. 

Remember, priorities should be your own this increases your success in your goals.  I’ve always noticed that when my clients know and are honest about their priorities, decisions are much more focused and clear.  They understand the consequences of any choice they make and are able to manage them?

How do you prioritize your agenda?  Write down your goals.  Be honest with yourself about what is really important.  Then consider the consequences, both good and bad’ and deal with them accordingly.  This will help you manage your time more effectively.  It’s also about getting rid of resentment when you have to put something else ahead of your priority because now you understand why.  This also will help you get rid of goals that are really busy work.  Believe it or not many goals are not yours but something someone suggested you should do or try and you don’t want to so its OK if you fail at them.  But remember prioritizing goals makes sure your aspirations are important; this allows you to focus on what’s significant to you.  Now you can’t blame anyone if they don’t happen.  But, you will be so proud of yourself when you try and accomplish you desires.

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Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone.”

~~Pablo Picasso~~

I love this quote. It speaks to the procrastinators in all of us. However, for women, it speaks to the need to please everyone but ourselves. Why? When was the last time you took a minute for yourself? I know that you have to work, take care of children, boyfriends, husbands, mothers, etc. But when you look at the list of things you have done so far today, what have you done for you? … to take care of yourself?

Did you take a long pause after reading that? Did everything come to mind; but, something you wanted or needed to do? Women are nurturers and that what makes women wonderful caregivers, managers and advisors; but, nurturing self is very important, too. It will relieve stress, allow you to take that mental break that will recharge your brain, and overall improve your health. Why? If you don’t take care of you, who will? So what have you been putting off doing?

  • Getting your nails done
  • Going to the gym
  • Picking up that book you’ve been wanting to read
  • Make an appointment with your physician, dentist, therapist, etc.
  • Register for a class, seminar, or workshop you’ve wanted to take.
  • Going to be on time.

This list can go on an on. Why? These things just help you in your quest to reaching your goals.

As a coach I often remind my clients whether they are in a job search or career change, in the midst of a personal crisis or just wanting to drop a few pounds. They have to remember their lifestyle and that not being present and enjoying your life can affect your health, success and well being. It can also affect you achieving your goals. Yes, you may have to do things for other people, employers, children, family, etc; but, you are your priority. Stop living for tomorrow and be present and live for today. Especially, if it means, you are taking care of you.

As a coach most of my day is spent, helping individuals get out of their comfort zone, so they can achieve the goals, success and life they desire. Often I find, the barriers are not created by finances, education, opportunity, etc. but the person. So, how do we stop this behavior? Easy!!!

  1. Acknowledge the goal you want to achieve. Many times, women want someone to tell them what their goal is or what they should do and are often frustrated when they aren’t fulfilled. The best person to tell you what you want to d, is you!!!
  2. Now tell someone or write in your journal, your goal. It keeps you accountable.
  3. Decide that is OK to fail, as long as you try.
  4. Don’t make up a story about what will happen, be present, and develop a strategy to accomplish your dream.
  5. Try!!! You have to try, to fail or succeed.

Remember the journey can be as great as achieving your goal, regardless of the result.

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Get Unstuck; Take a Risk and Move Forward

Have you reached out, connected or reconnected?  If not, don’t make excuses, take a risk and just it do. 

Many women get caught up in why they can’t do something and want to explain it.  Women do this, not for validation by only others; but for self justification, too.  Do you ever do this?  Well, if you do, consider after self acknowledgement, doing something about it.  What does this mean?  Get unstuck, take action, and move forward.  So you didn’t send out Christmas or Holiday greetings.  Send out New Year’s greetings, via snail mail, email or just pick up the phone and call someone you want to connect or reconnect with.  Why?  You might get a surprise.  Make a new friend or renew an old relationship.  Get a supporter or an ally.  It will be worth it.


Happy Holidays!!!

Friendships between women are important for mental and physical health.  So why is it when I speak to many women, in their thirties and forties, they often say, “They don’t have any friends or at least close friends” … or “they have very few friends?”  Or sometimes they even say, “They don’t have time for friends anymore.”  When I hear this, I tell women how important it is to have and nurture their relationships with women.  In some ways, friendships are more important than being in a relationship with a partner.  Why? 

Friendships with women improve your health, literally.  What does companionship with women do for us?  It reduces stress, lowers cholesterol and blood pressure, increases longevity, and even decreases your risk of getting Alzheimer’s.  So, if the benefits of having friends are so great, why is it so hard to, to have and maintain them, as we get older?  How can we make our friendships a priority, as we would a job or a relationship with a partner?  Why are we so busy? 

Some things are out of your hands.  You may have to travel for work, take care of children or just can’t find the time in your schedule for them.  Also, life changes like marriage, relocation, having children, death, illness or divorce could also have affected your relationships.  Sometimes we pull back when we’re busy or going through a life change.  We don’t communicate with our friends how important they are to us, how much we need them or sometimes we just don’t bother them and we lose touch.  But, instead of pulling back, it’s very important to make and maintain your relationships.  It’s not easy; but, it’s worth it, especially for women.  So pick up the phone and make a date with an old or new friend. What do you have to loose?  What will you gain?

Links on the Benefits of Friendship for Women


Hi All!!!

Welcome to 4 The Perfect Fit’s new blog, Metamorphosis.  Why did I call it that?  Well, many women don’t become their own person until they are in their late thirties and forties and that transformation is beautiful.  But, occasionally the change within us is not easy; because, often we are revolting against our rebirth.  Why? Sometimes we don’t value ourselves and our dreams until a crisis or milestones occur.  Then we discover who we are and what we want from our lives, careers, friends, boyfriends, families, etc.  However, most of us have been focusing on everyone’s agenda; but, our own.  Because of this, many women no longer know what their individual goals are, and how to accomplish them.  Metamorphosis will discuss topics that will allow us to not only grow; but, realize how to live the life we’ve always wanted.